Your conflict and drama with “them” is a reflection of the conflict or drama you have with yourself. The realness of “them” literally has nothing to do with any emotional discomfort you’re experiencing.
The gentle invitation is to withdraw any blame that sees “them” as anything other than the divine, and look within yourself and see how you are not allowing yourself to be free.
We only limit ourselves, through relying on others to give us what they never can; the wholeness we seek, the love we already are.
When this is seen, you’ll be in love with everyone.